WHEN PEOPLE ARE INTERESTED LOSE INTEREST IN YOU!!!
*I know it hurts but there is no shame in getting hurt - its a human emotion after all!!!
Sometimes we ask ourselves- Everything was good , where did we go wrong?
Sometimes we ask God why he made us with a million flaws.
Sometimes we are left with a million questions in our mind and could not seek helps.
In these sometimes , we forget ourselves and drown ourselves in self created guilts.
We are living in the 21st century and therefore we cannot expect things - either it comes naturally or it doesnot come at all.
TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE IS A SECONDARY THING , DISCUSSING ABOUT FEELINGS IS THE PRIMARY ONE.
- Well according to the dictionary , FEELING is an emotional state or reaction.
- According to the Psychology , feelings are the response to emotions, but the number of emotions is limited. Most scientific studies recognize 4 to 8 basic emotions, which are universal for all people.
- This man explained in 4 minutes what feelings are " https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjsInHebtTc "
- Acccording to me, feelings are what we do as everything we do is a reaction to somebody else's action.
AS WE KNOW ABOUT FEELINGS NOW , THERE ARE A FEW SIGNS THAT SHOW PEOPLE HAVE LOST INTEREST IN YOU (NO FEELINGS TOWARDS YOU):
Sometimes it's not your fault — sometimes it's just how time passes or how people change. Sometimes it may be down to something you do, distancing yourself, or hurting the other person, which leads them to zone out of the relationship. But unless they give you a reason why, the important thing is to not be too rash if your partner/other person looses interest. "Regardless of the reason, what's important is that the person is 'left behind' because their partner/friend/relative/other lost interest does not try and change themselves as a result".
Considering Partners , Reasons can be:
1. It was lust , not love , after all.
You know how sometimes people warn you not to rush into anything because you can feel so intensely about someone but it wears off? Yup. That happens. Sometimes if they loose interest because, unfortunately, it was never really there in the first place. The lust fades and there's no foundation to back it up. It sucks, but it's true. "The initial excitement and energy that their partner brought no longer exists.
2. They cannot get over something.
Sometimes if you've hurt someone, they can't get over it no matter how much they try. Although it might seem like water under the bridge, they internalize it and can grow distant until they completely shut down to you or the relationship. Some things are hard to get over.
3. They've Just Changed.
It's not always that complicated. We all change, but sometimes those shifts are seismic enough that they're just not interested in— or looking for— the same things any more. "The person that loses interest has changed or has discovered some things about themselves," Armstrong says. "It can be very common for two people to start dating and break up for seemingly no reason.
4. Something Else Is Taking Priority
Not everyone makes their relationship a priority. If their job, or even their hobbies, take over then their relationship will hold less and less interest for them. Maybe it's one big passion, maybe it's just being a bit scattered and their attention jumping around, but it's hard to go through.
5. They Meet Someone Else
Sometimes, especially during the early stages of a relationship, they just meet someone else. It's definitely a gut-wrenching, sh*tty feeling, but at least you have a definite "why".
According to the psychology , losing interest is a two way thing: both men and women may suddenly or gradually lose feelings.
Some of the reasons can be:
1. Low confidence — One of the most common reasons why people lose interest is because the person they’re dating lacks confidence. Confidence counts for a lot. Consider a person — and we all know at least one — who is physically unattractive, yet has many dating options. Insecurities may not be obvious right from the start, which is why two people could go out a few times before one person has a change of heart.
2. Caring too much — Some people are desperately seeking a relationship. They are unhappy on their own and long for someone to spend their life with. Dating partners quickly pick up on — and are turned off by — this quality. Well-rounded individuals, by contrast, are comfortable on their own; they don’t need a partner to feel whole.
3. Bad timing — If none of the above applies to you, then perhaps the partner lost interest because the timing wasn’t right. We have no way of knowing all that is going on in someone’s life — may be the person is already in a relationship, maybe they are still getting over someone, the list goes on and on.
NOW , THE QUESTION ARISES -WHAT SHOULD YOU DO ABOUT THE ABOVE ARRIVED SITUATIONS?
* Boost your confidence! High self-esteem results from being comfortable in your own skin and excelling in valued domains. Ask yourself, what parts of your life do you want to improve upon? If you feel insecure about your body, prioritize getting in shape. If you are insecure about your job, enroll in courses that will get you to your desired profession.
* You can come to terms with the idea of remaining single for the rest of your life. Once you feel comfortable with this notion, you are ready for a healthy partnership. It could be difficult, at first, to accept this possibility, but it will force you to reflect on who you want to become as an individual.
* Be okay with the unexplainable. You can’t understand everything; some things in life are a mystery. Have faith that if the relationship is meant to be, it will work out when the timing is right for both people.
* Get busy doing things for yourself, like eating right, exercising, spending time with family and friends, and being open to receiving all the positive experiences life has in store for you.
* A person who doesn’t prioritize you isn’t worth your time and effort, so don’t get stuck on them. Keep an open mind, work on yourself, and have faith that you are right where you need to be.
Love yourself and see people loving you too!!!
Some of the reasons can be:
1. Low confidence — One of the most common reasons why people lose interest is because the person they’re dating lacks confidence. Confidence counts for a lot. Consider a person — and we all know at least one — who is physically unattractive, yet has many dating options. Insecurities may not be obvious right from the start, which is why two people could go out a few times before one person has a change of heart.
3. Bad timing — If none of the above applies to you, then perhaps the partner lost interest because the timing wasn’t right. We have no way of knowing all that is going on in someone’s life — may be the person is already in a relationship, maybe they are still getting over someone, the list goes on and on.
NOW , THE QUESTION ARISES -WHAT SHOULD YOU DO ABOUT THE ABOVE ARRIVED SITUATIONS?
* Boost your confidence! High self-esteem results from being comfortable in your own skin and excelling in valued domains. Ask yourself, what parts of your life do you want to improve upon? If you feel insecure about your body, prioritize getting in shape. If you are insecure about your job, enroll in courses that will get you to your desired profession.
* You can come to terms with the idea of remaining single for the rest of your life. Once you feel comfortable with this notion, you are ready for a healthy partnership. It could be difficult, at first, to accept this possibility, but it will force you to reflect on who you want to become as an individual.
* Be okay with the unexplainable. You can’t understand everything; some things in life are a mystery. Have faith that if the relationship is meant to be, it will work out when the timing is right for both people.
* Get busy doing things for yourself, like eating right, exercising, spending time with family and friends, and being open to receiving all the positive experiences life has in store for you.
* A person who doesn’t prioritize you isn’t worth your time and effort, so don’t get stuck on them. Keep an open mind, work on yourself, and have faith that you are right where you need to be.
| Love yourself and see people loving you too!!! |
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